Fatherhood Lesson #234: How to untangle your daughter's hair

Friday, August 8, 2014
by Tariq Piracha RSS / cpsrenewalFacebook / cpsrenewaltwitter / tariqpiracha

If you've ever read my personal blog, you'll know that I occasionally post a lesson that I've learned as a father. This lesson, I think, is better placed here. 

I have two daughters. There will be instances when their mother won’t be around and I’m going to need to figure out what to do with their hair. But thus far I’ve struggled even with brushing it. It got tangled and knotted and the girls protest because, well, it hurts when I do it.

It seemed like a simple enough process: start at the top of the head, and brush downwards, right? 


This week, I quietly observed my wife as she brushed my daughter's hair and, luckily for me, she described to my little girl how to brush hair properly.

You’re supposed to start by brushing at the bottom, to untangle it there, before moving to the top of the head. She explained that if you start at the top, by the time the brush moves to the bottom of the hair, you may have inadvertently tightened all the knots, making it even more difficult to untangle.

Lesson learned: Start with the hardest part first and work it out before moving to the easier parts. Otherwise, I’ll make the work harder, longer and more painful, thereby annoying my daughter who is just anxious to go play.